Re: Thinking ahead...
2 days before my oldest kid was born, my BIL called me up and said "Tell me all the things you won't do with your child". So I rattled off a whole list of stuff- no crying baby in a restaurant, no pacifiers, no TV as a babysitter, not going to nurse longer than 12 months, etc. My BIL (father of 3) listened patiently for a few minutes, and then said "All those things you just said? You'll do them". And you know what? He was right!
My point is, unless you want to embrace a strong chance of eventually eating your own words, don't make hard-and-fast, absolute statements. Babies and children and their needs tend to humble us. "The best-laid plans of mice and men go oft awry," right?
Coolest thing my big girl said recently: "How can you tell the world is moving when you are standing on it?"
Coolest thing my little girl sang recently: "I love dat one-two pupples!"