I'm a Mama to an 8.75m old baby boy who was born early at 34 5/7weeks. He was in the NICU (completely separate from me ) for 11 days from the start - but we've established a decent nursing relationship due to hard work and perseverance. He's about 16.2lbs now and has 7-8 wets a day and on average 1 bowel movement... although I think he needs more that that - I believe solids isn't helping him in that area. My son is new to solids and seems eager at first to eat them, but prefers self-feeding (which because he's new, is limited in food choices). He's in that very distracted phase right now, and learning to crawl, so getting him to cooperate with nursing is a struggle. He'll nurse to nap for about 30mins for his 2 naps a day and often won't nurse for more than 30 seconds any other time I offer. I offer at least every 3 hours - if only for my piece of mind that I've offered. He'll nurse on average 3x during the sleep hours and 3-4x during waking hours for a normal day on the breast around 70-80 minutes. Seems fine for him... I'd prefer more.
Since I DO offer, and he refuses - I feel a little helpless. Especially in the morning. When he wakes for the day, he usually refuses to nurse. Hasn't had any milk for at least 4-5 hours, and won't nurse a drop. And I don't know quite how to get going with solids. I don't want him to have solids without nursing, yet he's only wanting to nurse if he's going down for a nap. What to do?
It's really important to me that we keep our nursing relationship going as long as possible, but I want to be sure his needs are being met (even if they aren't how I perceive they should be met) Should I start giving him solids in the morning without our milk-time anyway? I HAVE to hope he's getting enough milk from the schedule he's chosen, because he's happy and has enough nappies... but I guess I just question it all?? What would other Mama's do in my place? I can't force him to nurse? I've tried a bottle of Mama-milk too... just doesn't want it! Much more interested in getting up and playing, that's for sure.
Right now, we only do solid foods once a day (dinnerish) and they consist of whole foods usually, avocado, banana, maybe a Sprout brand packet of foods, and I offer water in a sippy which is very new and not exactly welcomed. He may snack on a handfull of HappyBaby Puffs or a Mum-Mum in the afternoon - as he LOVES those. I'd like to expand our solids to include a breakfast. I just don't know how to go about it. Any tips, thoughts, comments? Should I just stop worrying so darn much? =)
Thanks and Cheers!