Hi ladies! I'm a noob I found myself ending up on this forum as a result of endless Googling of all the questions I had/have, and I figured it was about time to join!
My DS is currently 5.5 weeks. I've been BFing him---albeit with a shield (thanks to the delivery nurse...but that's another story)---since hour 1. I had planned on being a babywearer and turns out, he's all for that! He's in the Moby as I type, happy snug and asleep We had not planned on co-sleeping, at least not with a family bed; he slept in his pack-n-play in our room for the first 2 weeks, then while visiting our family in Ohio (yes, we're crazy, took a road trip with a 2 week old) and not being able to sleep in the day as much I brought him to bed with us and let him nurse to sleep, which we've been doing ever since
What does this have to do with returning to work???
I *have* to go back, unfortunately it's not a financial option for me to be a SAHM which surprisingly I'd love! However, I'm not completely bitter about working, just nervous. I'm a Team Leader at Target, and they have awesomely consented to my schedule request (M-F 6pm-close, every other weekend regular 8-hour shifts rotating open and close). <---It'll be crazy because that means I'll be working 12 days in a row at times. But not working 8 hour shifts and working the evenings when it's a bit less stressful I'm actually looking forward to.
I go back June 1st.
I started pumping in the morning about a week and a half ago to get used to my pump (Avent Isis Duo) and freezing what I get. A couple days ago DH started trying to give DS a bottle for his evening feed, when I'll be back at work. DS was of course a bit befuddled at first but then took it without a problem, and did so the day after too.
After reading up, I read that it might be easier if mom's out of the house for the bottle feeds. And...DH and I "got into it" a bit, what with me watching him like a hawk when he has DS and being bossy, telling him how to calm him down and all. It's just soooooo hard for me to hear/see little man cry and be upset!
I know it's because they haven't had the time together like DS and I have.
So yesterday after DH came home from work, I had a bottle ready in the fridge, and turned DS over to him. I showered and went to the store.
It was so hard!
I was only gone for a little over an hour, and I could barely focus on shopping, I was so worried about them!
I'm a worrier by nature, it's not that I'm worried DH is going to do anything. I do, however, have my degrees in psychology and have read waaaaay too much about the 'damage' crying can do for newborn/infants, particularly when their needs aren't being met by their caregiver. DS just cried the whole time I was gone last night, I guess only calming down for a brief time when DH took him out for a walk. Because, currently DS only falls asleep while nursing in my arms/by my side or in the Moby.
I guess what I need to hear, even though I *know* the answers is...is this anxiety about being away from DS going to go away once I do it more often? Will DH and DS figure each other out and learn to trust each other? Will DS learn to take a bottle from DH? Will DS EVER learn to sleep not all wrapped up on me or while stuck on my breast?? Any advice or words of wisdom are welcome and appreciated! My mother never BF any of us (it was so hard being home! she's supportive but as you know, people who have never done it don't understand) so I only have y'all and the internet to turn to!