Re: Help, almost 3 weeks and ready to give up
Oh man, it's hard the first few weeks. Please don't feel like you've missed the breastfeeding boat because you aren't enjoying it from the beginning. It is so much better for you and your baby and you are so lucky not to have problems with latching and feeding. It's working and it WILL get easier, I promise. You and your baby will BOTH get better at nursing and your baby will start to settle into somewhat predictable patterns. Of course the patterns will change every few weeks, but you'll get used to that, too.
You aren't yourself any more. You are yourself with a baby and that's an entirely different thing. But it's not necessarily because you are nursing. Your baby needs you, whether you're nursing or not, and that is a hard thing to get used to, but you do get used to it. The lost feeling goes away and you start to trust your instincts as a mother. You are doing the right thing right now. I encourage you to give it some more time. Even for experienced moms those first few weeks are often the hardest.
I've both exclusively nursed and exclusively formula fed and speaking from my own experience it is SO MUCH easier when you are just nursing. No bottles to wash and sterilize, no remembering to bring formula and bottles and safe water every time you leave the house. No measuring and trying to remember how much baby drank and when.
Once you are more used to nursing and feeling better about it I encourage you to come back and ask for some tips to help you feel more comfortable nursing in public. It's kind of a fiasco with a newborn, or it can be especially if you're feeling self conscious. Point being, you won't be tied to the house forever.
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