I haven't been on much since my son was born, but I need some help. Nursing has been rough this time around. Really rough. DS is currently on a strike and has only nursed once in the last 20 hours. And it was 15 hours ago. I keep trying, but he just refuses and gets so upset. Here's some background-- DS is almost 10 months old. At his 9 mo check he was just over 20 lbs. He didn't get really interested in solids until about 8 mos, but now is a very good, albeit picky, eater. If we try to remove him from his high chair before he is done, he arches his back and "locks" himself in. He has 8 teeth that are fully through and doesn't seem bothered by them. He is not sick and neither of us have any signs of thrush. He is very busy crawling, cruising and getting into all sorts of normal mischief. He is fiercely independent. He sleeps horribly at night, but always has. During the day, he takes two good naps and is generally in a good mood. He throws horrific tantrums, though. Worse than my 2 1/2 year old DD ever has. He is incredibly cute but very sensitive and moody.
We had some latch issues in the beginning. When he was 2 weeks old I saw an IBCLC and she helped me get those issues resolved. Things went well for several months, until he started teething. He started to bite a lot and I had to always be on guard. I didn't enjoy nursing at all. Every time a new tooth cut though, nursing would be really painful. Eventually, he would seem to figure it out and we'd be fine until the next tooth cut through. Lately, though, nursing is excruciatingly painful. Sometimes so much so that I just have to remove him and try again later. He pushes on my breast with both hands and tries to nurse while basically just pulling on my nipple. I spend the whole time trying to hold his arms down so he can't push off while clenching my teeth to get through the pain.
As I said, DS is very sensitive, and I seem to have really hurt his feelings. He won't nurse now. He will latch on for, at most, a minute, then arches his back and whines to get out of my arms. He won't relax. The only time I was able to keep him on until letdown was when I woke him up from a dead sleep and he dream nursed.
I feel very hurt. After I put him down for his afternoon nap, with another failed nursing attempt, I just cried.
DH is being very kind and offered to take DD away for a while this evening so DS and I can reconnect. I was thinking of taking a bath with him (he loves baths) and cuddling afterward to see if I can entice him to nurse. I'm just not ready to throw in the towel.
Am I doing the right thing? Is there something I'm missing? Any feedback is appreciated.