My son is almost 4 weeks old and we've struggled with breastfeeding from the start. I was given a shield in the hospital without much of a chance to try without it, and I feel like that's really slowing down the process of us both getting the hang of this. I can't nurse without it, as my son just clamps down on my nipple and won't latch deep enough. What's making it even more difficult is that he gets upset and puts both hands right beside his mouth, or flails them around and I have a really hard time calming him down or moving his hands and elbows to even get him close enough to get a good latch. The longer he fights me the more frustrated we both get and I know that just makes it worse, but I have no idea how to get his hands out of the way enough to make it work.
He's gaining weight slowly but steadily and his diapers seem to be normal, it just takes us so long to feed because he takes so long to latch and then has a hard time staying still enough to stay latched. He pulls away and bucks back during feeding and sometimes just starts crying in the middle of eating. He's very restless and rarely stays still to suck consistently for longer than 4 or 5 minutes, but we nurse for an hour at a time and he still seems hungry if i try to take him off, even if he isn't still sucking. I have tried every position, every calming method, every way to get him to latch better and we're still struggling. Any ideas?! I'm almost ready to throw in the towel, I hate being frustrated with my 4 week old who is only trying to eat.