hey mamas. my husband and I are having a tough time during the night with our 4 month old baby girl. this is what's going on... sorry for the long post, but I want to make sure I share all that I can because I am DESPERATE for help.
when she was first born, to about 8 weeks, she slept beautifully in her own bed, which I kept and still keep within an arms reach of where I sleep. and then we would put her in bed with us around 4a to finish out the night. she was such a fantastic sleeper until my husband went out of town for work for 4 weeks! before then, we were able to lay her down fully awake and she would happily fall asleep on her own and she only woke up to nurse once or twice a night. but when he left, she began waking up every hour to hour and a half. *so naturally, I would feed her with each waking and I began nursing her to sleep every night instead of just laying her down.*
now, we are all back together again, but traveling as a family, and we have been in a hotel for a couple months. the hotel gave us a crappy pack n play, which she protested sleeping in from the start. (I don't blame her, I wouldn't want to sleep in it either.) *so that, combined with her terrible sleeping habits that began at 8 weeks, led us to bed sharing every night with the hope that we would all be rested again like we were when she was a newborn.*
but now that we are bed sharing 100% of the time, he and I are completely exhausted. i can't just nurse her and have her peacefully go back to sleep. she wants to pacify on my breast*ALL NIGHT LONG and when I try to pull away from her she cries and cries. i even wait to pull away until shes in a deep sleep and she still wakes up. my husband will get up and try to soothe her when we know she has a full belly but she's just not having it. *she will cry and cry until we put her back on the breast. it's heart wrenching for all 3 of us. I wish I was content to let her pacify all night long, but I'm just not getting any sleep....it's keeping me awake. she sleeps for 12-14 hours a night consistently (with frequent wakings of course) so the fact that I'm not getting any rest is insane.
I thought maybe she became insecure about nighttime sleeping when dada went out of town, but things have only gotten worse since he came back.*
here are some other things to share *that might help you guys help me...
I am able to lay her down for naps during the day, mostly for only a half hour to an hour, but only if I nurse her to sleep and make sure she is in a deep sleep before trying.*
we do nap nurse a lot too though.*
she absolutely will not take a pacifier at home...I have tried and tried. I try to slip it in her mouth but it makes her angry. but she will sometimes take a paci in the sling or stroller.
she's been teething since she was 8 weeks, but now at 4 months, is REALLY teething in full force with a lot of fussiness, pain, and diarrhea.
she is going through some pretty big milestones right now...rolling in both directions as of last week, she made a pretty big effort to crawl today and I'm pretty sure she will be crawling by the end of the week, she wants to pull herself to standing constantly. I know milestones can interfere with a baby's sleep habits. could this be the cause of her nighttime insecurity?
I have read 'the no cry sleep solution' and the techniques work sometimes, but currently, nothing works.
i want to love bed sharing and my husband really loves it. but I am just exhausted. *how can we get her to nurse and peacefully fall back to sleep without mama as the pacifier?
I am typing this with her at my breast, help!!! and believe me, I know how fortunate i am that nursing and pacifying on me is her favorite place, but I have to have a break every now and then.