Re: How to cope with weaning psychologically
Please don't take this the wrong way, but my first question is "Do you have to wean her?" Obviously you have worked very hard to get to this point, but if you're feeling so down about weaning and your baby has been reluctant... I have to wonder if maybe continuing to nurse isn't the easiest and most pleasant course of action. My experience with nursing toddlers has been almost exclusively positive.
If you must wean, then it's going to be okay. You will find other ways to connect and cuddle with your baby. Don't be too surprised if she's not a cuddler. Active toddlers often are too busy to spend a lot of time being little lovey-dovey lap babies. But they will come back to mama's arms- maybe not quite as often as when they were tiny, but sometimes more intensely. When you're cuddling a big kid, cuddling is often more verbal and playful than simply physical.
Coolest thing my big girl said recently: "How can you tell the world is moving when you are standing on it?"
Coolest thing my little girl sang recently: "I love dat one-two pupples!"