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    Default Balancing work/mothering - can you help this mama (NB mag)

    Hi, again, Mamas! I posted the wrong issue's question, so I am posting again, for the one that is due soon. I so appreciate all the wonderful answers you give! You can reply here or send me a private forum message or send your replies to making.it.work@lllusa.org. Please be advised that I am seeking these answers to be published in an upcoming issue of New Beginnings Magazine.

    Here is the mother's question:

    "My job is demanding and takes so much energy. I care about what I do and don’t want to change jobs, but by the time I come home I am drained. My daughter is five months old and I worry that I am not giving her enough of myself. I’d like to hear about ways that mothers have found to balance work and mothering."

    Thanks!
    Winema N. Lanoue
    Contributing Editor
    New Beginnings Magazine
    making.it.work@lllusa.org

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    Default Re: Balancing work/mothering - can you help this mama (NB ma

    I'm not a working mother, but if I were, I would say co-sleeping for sure, and baby wearing, and prolly doing my best to hibernate at home on the weekends, or just spending time with her outside, essentially just not doing too much, keeping priorities straight, taking baths together, etc.

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    Default Re: Balancing work/mothering - can you help this mama (NB ma

    Is there any way to ease back in? How long have you been back? If there is a way to work from home one or two days a week or use FMLA time to spread out how long you can not be full time I would do that. Especially if you are at a place you have been for while where they know you and would be willing to give you some flexiblity.

    Way too lazy for formula

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    Default Re: Balancing work/mothering - can you help this mama (NB ma

    co sleeping made a huge difference to me. as did changing my schedule so i was only working 4 days a week. try to swing a cleaning lady and making sure you arent trying to do chores when you should be hanging with your baby. The other parent really needs to step up when the baby is small and not sleeping. unstructured weekends were also a wonderfult thing for me. and know you will have more energy and be better able to give of yourself when you are sleeping more.

    at 5 months old your child needs your presence when you are around them (so baby wearing when you do need to do chores, not prioritizing cleaning etc over the baby) and your love.

    You also need to recharge after work. some ideas include a shower as soon as you get home, reading on your commute home, 5 minute meditation as you walk in the door. something that makes you feel more like you. you would be amazed how much more of yourself you can give when you look after yourself.
    proud but exhausted working mammy to two high needs babies

    • my surprise baby: the one and only D-Man born 3 weeks late (5/5/08) at 9 lbs 14 oz and 21.5 inches, and
    • the shock H-Girl born about a week late (10/7/09) at 8lbs 15oz and 20.75 inches.


    If I am here I am covered in baby (probably two) and fighting for control of the keyboard.

    Family beds are awesome

    Wondering if you have PPD? Take the screening and see your doctor. You deserve to feel better.

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    One thing that helped me was making a list of "to do's". Also, doing a lot of crock pot dishes that are easily heated up with throw away plates and such is a huge help when you are tired. Try also to get some help from whoever you can. You can't be a good mom without taking care of yourself as well!
    Passed my CLC exam!

    Mother of 3: 12-25-04 12-3-07 1-13-2011

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    I work full time, but my schedule is 3 days of 12 hour shifts. The days that I work I am totally drained. Between work and pumping 4x a day I am totally exhausted. I rely on my husband and my 12 year old to help me when I get home with the 2 little ones (2 1/2 yrs. & 3 1/5 months). If my husband gets home early, he cooks, otherwise I eat my dinner at work. I get home straight to the shower, where I let the warm water carry my stress away, if only for a few minutes. Then I bathe both my boys and we get in bed to read (mostly is my Color Nook doing the reading )... On my days off, I am up by 7am, thanks to my boys and I go places with them; the zoo, a park, or simply a walk around the neighborhood. We also co-sleep, 2 yr. old in bed with us and baby in crib next to the bed.
    Working mommy to Cat, Nikki, Brandon and baby Lucas
    exclusively for the second time!
    we made it 21 months with previous son and 9 months and counting with Lucas

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    Thank you, Mamas!

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