Re: Have Mastitis: Really need support & encouragement
mama, this isn't even about breastfeeding anymore, it's about your husband being actively rude and undermining of your preferences. of course you're worn out - they are using you as a doormat. i'm sorry to be so blunt about it, but if you don't stand up for your needs (YES NEEDS) then they will keep doing this about everything else in your life.
it doesn't sound to me - admittedly an outsider - like your MIL is trying to "help". it sounds like she is trying to be the mom. and she is not the mom. and it sounds like your DH is kind of wanting her to be the mom, and that is just as inappropriate.
i totally agree wiht mommal's suggestions - when you are home, baby is ON you. and you nurse. that's it. baby should sleep next to you (in bed or in a sidecar or a separate crib, but however it is - next to you). that will cut down on a lot of your problems because your MIL just won't have acccess to baby.
and maybe it's too much to confront DH and win, so in the end what you're going to get is a "compromise" where you're in control of hte baby while you're home and MIL gets to do what she wants when you're at work with bottles or formulas or whatever. but it's not actually a "compromise" because it's just you asserting control over what you can and then giving up on how MIL interacts iwth your baby. and baby will be fine, you know? but YOU need to be fine, too.
Nursing, pumping, cloth-diapering, babywearing, working professor mama with the awesomest SAHD ever.