Re: 10 month issues: Sleeping, Pumping, Allergies, Solids
It stinks to be on a totally different page than your significant other when it comes to any aspect of childcare, all the more so when you're in conflict over sleep. So a to you for dealing with that!
Here's what I think (in no particular order):
- the level of night-waking you are experiencing is normal
- if you allow your baby to cry it out now, there's no guarantee that you'll get permanent "good" sleeper- you have a lot of teeth and a lot of developmental changes still to get through, and those correlate with increased and/or renewed night-waking. Many parents who let their babies CIO have to resort to CIO over and over again. It's not a one-time deal.
- cry-it-out methods are easy to suggest and awful to do- it's not going to be your boyfriend's mom sitting there listening to a sad screaming baby, so her opinion on the subject doesn't matter.
- your boyfriend has to get over himself and realize that you need sleep and co-sleeping with the baby is how you get it. So if he can't tolerate baby in your bed, he has to accept that he's not going to have you by his side all night long. Part of being a grown up is learning to be flexible about sleeping arrangements when the situation calls for it. (Another part of being a grown-up: not running to mommy every time you have an issue, particularly a relationship issue, when you are a grown man. You can tell your boyfriend I said so.)
- a mom who is struggling with supply probably wants to think very carefully about eliminating nighttime feedings. Those night feedings are probability nutritionally important for your baby, and may well be helping you maintain supply.
I suggest getting hold of a copy of Elizabeth Pantley's book "The No-Cry Sleep Solution" and reading it with your boyfriend. The book has gentle, breastfeeding-friendly suggestions for getting a baby to sleep longer and more independently. The suggestions may work, or they may not, but they do give you a place to start and a feeling that you are doing something, which can really help when you and your significant other are in conflict.
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