Hi, I am hoping to get some input on a situation I haven't read much about here. Currently DS is only 5 months so I've got quite awhile before I really need to think about weaning, but still curious.
I would like to continue nursing beyond one year, but my concern with so-called 'baby-led weaning' is that the child often seems to continue to nurse until age 3 or even 4. I don't think I'm comfortable nursing a child that old (no judgement on others, just not for me or my family). I think ideally, I'd like to wean between 18 months and 2 years. The thing is, I don't want it to be hard on DS emotionally when we wean. I have heard that it's often easy to wean a baby between 9 months and a year because they're naturally so distractible and curious at that age anyway, but often hard to wean an older baby of 15 months or more because they become quite attached to nursing.
I'm just wondering if this is true? If I keep nursing past a year will it be harder to wean when I do want to? What is the chance that DS might wean by himself by about age 2 or so? If he doesn't wean by himself, what can I do to make this less emotionally traumatic for him? Or would I be better off just weaning him at age 1 or so, before he's old enough to be all that attached to nursing or remember it for very long?
I love BF'ing DS now, I just don't think I want to be nursing a 3 year old and I'm afraid that's what will happen if we go totally with baby-led weaning. At the same time, I'm reluctant to cut our nursing relationship short at one year old. A one-year-old is still a baby to me and it would be nice if we could nurse up until 18 months-2 years. I realize my feelings about nursing an older toddler may change when I get there, but if they don't, how hard will it be to wean an 18 month-2year old? Would it be easier to just do it at age one instead?
Thanks in advance for your input!