I just introduced myself in the intro forum but thought I'd post my question here just in case others good benefit from the feedback
I am currently nursing my second DD. She is 7wks going on 8...although I am a "seasoned" nurser this territory is all new to me. My first struggled with nipple confusion (my fault) for the first four months so I exclusively pumped and bottle fed until I got her back to the breast. So I really don't have any experience nursing a newborn. So far I think things are going great! However, this LO doesn't seem satisfied with pacifying herself on the breast as my first DD did. She nurses great, has more than doubled her birth weight, "sleeps through the night" but has no interest in the breast unless she's hungry. I thought at first it was because my supply was choking her but I've gotten that under control and my milk is no longer drowning her when she nurses. However, she is still not interested in just being on the breast for comfort. If she's tired she almost never falls asleep at the breast. She will pull off, even when I know the flow has slowed, and suck on her hand or even my shoulder but never the breast. In the evenings she will pull off and cry at the breast and nothing really comforts here except maybe rocking...sometimes she just cries. She nurses great though in the middle of the night. Last night, while trying to calm her down for bed, daddy gave her a paci for the first time. Even though I hate the idea of it she fell asleep contently after 5mins or so of sucking...
I've read on kellymom.com some of the negative things about paci's and I'd rather avoid them if I could but I absolutely don't want to withhold something from my DD that she may really need. Apparently the breast isn't cutting it. Anyway, I'm nervous about using a paci on a regular basis. I'm not even sure if I should. Do I have to? Will she just eventually find her fingers/thumb? Will she eventually learn to pacify at the breast or do I need to just get over myself and give in to a paci?! And if I do give a paci what are good guidlines to using it? I just don't want the paci to effect our nursing relationship. This probably seems silly but I'm really struggling with this. I really appreciate any advice you can give!!