Hi Everyone - sorry for yet another long post -just want to give all the info right away so hopefully (i pray) someone can give me some new suggestions.
So my DS basically started 'fighting' with me at every feeding around 4 months. He's now 5 and a half months. He has basically lost almost all interest in eating. (attempt to feed and he usually just turns his head completely away from me, won't latch at all, and gets super fussy)
1) At first I thought it was a nursing strike but he has never been fussy or anything - just hasn't seemed hungry
2) then perhaps reverse cycling (as he always - and still does - eat perfectly fine in the middle of the night and was eating more frequently at night than usual)
3) and even OALD again (had it the first month or so, then thought I had it under control, but I don't have any of the same symptoms - such as leaking, engorgement, rapid weight gain etc - I do still have spraying milk all over the place at the beginning of a nursing session, very short feedings (on average 3 minutes), gulping, sputtering, spitting up etc though. I dont pump b/c that makes it worse, and I've tried blockfeeding with no change.
4)distractibility - I know this is definitely contributing to the problem, but I am not convinced its at the root of it - and I've tried every trick in the book to help us out in this department
When this all started he seemed to just refuse to eat during the day - didn't seem remotely interested in eating and has always remained perfectly content. After about a week of that, I was able to get him to eat when I was putting him down for a nap and when he woke up from a nap. Now I can usually only get him to eat during the day when he is just waking up. So before this all started he was eating about 8-10 times a day for about 5 minutes each session. Now he is eating about 7 times a day (about 4-5 times during the day and about twice overnight for about 3 minutes - and almost every day time session is a battle (middle of the night feedings are great!) and it is literally sucking the life out of me, I just don't know what I can do to help make feeding easier and happier on my little one. It is making me so crazy when he doesn't eat.
He is still pooping about once a day and has about 5 or 6 wet diapers (same as always). He is still gaining about a pound a month - maintaining his weight gain since birth. So I know he is physically okay, but mentally I just can't take these struggles anymore - it can take like 3 hours of constant struggle just to get him to eat for 2 minutes. He has never been a baby who has exhibited hunger cues, so its making it so difficult for me to leave the house (b/c I have to make sure the SECOND he stirs from a nap I am right there trying to feed him). Oh and we haven't started any solids yet, and he doesn't much like the bottle either.
I don't force him to eat either b/c that just stresses him out. If he arches his back and fusses instantly when we try, we stop then and there and I will try again later.
I've tried almost every suggestion people have given me in the past, but I just can't seem to get back to smooth nursing again. I am SO EXHAUSTED from our daytime nursing struggles but actually LOOK FORWARD to 3am feedings b/c they are so easy.