So, we're in the process of helping LO sleep longer at night (and in his own crib, not cosleeping anymore ). We've been trying the Pantley method (well, kinda!), and so far, it seems to be working great. I'm not looking to night wean entirely, but I would like to get him down to nursing every 3-4 hrs (or longer stretches) at night, vs. the 1.5-2 hr stretches. So, we're not sure how to involve DH in the process; he's an accomplished uncle and is great with kids, but hasn't really been around BF babies so he's more used to the FF baby "sleep with a bottle" fathering/uncle-ing method.
I've been nursing LO down, unlatching him (yay, he unlatched HIMSELF last night consistently), and laying him in the crib. This seems to work well. Since we EC, I'm also pottying him as the need arises at night (before/during nursing). He's pretty consistently dry through the night. Right now I've got the night shift entirely, b/c LO is still needing to nurse in order to settle himself back down for sleep when he wakes. And I'm trying to help him learn other methods of falling asleep -- but I would LOVE ideas and thoughts on ways to get DH involved so that he doesn't feel like he's being handed a ticking time bomb that can only be diffused by having boobs and nursing. LO, when he is tired, wants his mama and wants to nurse. That's the way we've done things so far... and I'm willing to work on changing his sleep associations so that DH (or another caregiver) can help LO to sleep.