Re: Concerns about going back to work
If your baby would be left to cry, then it's time to look into a new daycare. Infants need to be held, fed, comforted, changed, etc., on demand. Not according to a schedule. Babies don't watch clocks and neither should their caregivers!
Your doc gave you absolutely awful advice about stretching out your baby's feedings. It is totally normal for a breastfed infant to eat every 90 minutes or so throughout their waking hours for their entire first year, though many babies eventually space out their feedings a lot more than that. The important thing is that the baby should determine her own feeding frequency. Milk is made on a supply = demand basis. Any time you restrict demand by spacing out the feedings, you risk decreased milk supply, not to mention a miserable baby who cries with hunger, unable to understand why her mother won't feed her! Stay away from schedules, mama. Nothing good comes from them.
One thing that might help your caregivers is if you send bottles which are on the small side. Breastfed babies tend to take in just 2-3 oz at the breast, maybe a bit more if they are really hungry. This is a lot less, volume-wise, than the average formula-fed baby eats. So if your caregivers have a bunch of small bottles, they can give a couple of oz every couple of hours, instead of giving your baby one big bottle every 3-4 hours. More labor-intensive for the caregivers, perhaps, but better for baby!
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