I have always felt that different moms handle different ages...differently! Also of course different kids are going to be challenging at different ages.
Personally my recollection is that I adored every second of the first year with both. I am sure I did not really but that is what I remember! Dear babies, could do no wrong! Hah. Then, Toddlerhood-ugh, for me, was headbangingly frustrating with both my kids. The oldest was a lovely 2 year old, but drove me mad at 3. I felt more connected for a long time to my oldest, because I felt I understood his temperament, while my youngest had me in utter confusion from aboout 18 months to 5 years! Right now my youngest is lovely but my oldest has me pulling my hair out every other day.
Plus, kids are individuals, and part of respecting that is to understand there are going to ignite individual feelings in us parents.
I think it is hard when our formerly one and only becomes the oldest and, we think, has thus been supplanted in our affections by the younger, who naturally needs so much but, often, it is easier in many ways to meet those needs. Generally, It's not hard at all to please a 5 month old in comparison to a three year old! But I think it is totally normal and will likely shift many times throughout your kids lives.
I think a big part of it too is that I know we plan on having only 3 kids and I love the baby stage so much and the toddler stage with my first has been so frustrating and difficult and I know I will miss my baby days so I just want to relish those with my baby. I hope she doesn't wean for a long time because I need as much as I can get!
Young SAHM of
Afton (A1) (1/24/09) and
Autumn (A2) (8/29/11)
Sealed in the SLC Temple
and and now CDing!
I'm right there!! This is our last baby and if it were by me, I would keep having babies, I'd love to have 4 but we decided 3 is a good number and we are done. I love the baby stage and I'm trying to enjoy DD3 as much as possible without missing anything of the other 2.
They grow too fast!! :'(
If you obey all the rules, you miss all the fun. - Katharine Hepburn
just wanted to say thank you for sharing all these experiences -- i guess that could be a general thank you to all the posts on this forum but this thread particularly hits a chord with me as i only have one baby but am planning on more (soon hopefully! once af comes back, sigh). i worry sometimes about future kids and my connection with them, about how dd1 will feel about it, etc etc. so it's really helpful to read other people's experiences. so, yeah, nothing to add, except thank you.
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