I know 18 months is young to truly self wean BUT i think it sadly might be happening. Despite it being sudden (which I know usually indicates a nursing strike) I am starting to think that it could be self-weaning, despite me desperately not wanting that to be the ace . I am nursing my third child who is 18 months old. I nursed my first for 18 months when he apparently suddenly self weaned when I was 3 months pregnant with Gus and I nursed him for 21 months, when he again weaned by himself when I was 3 months pregnant with Poppy.
My current "nursling", Poppy (#3) was nursing 4 times per day pre-Christmas but dropped to 3 times when she dropped her morning nap in December (as shed nursed before her nap)' then in December she stopped wanting her first thing in the morning feed, despite me offering, so we were down to 2 feeds (before lunchtime nap and bedtime). About 2-3 weeks ago, she started biting me but still feeding ok, after initial attempts at biting. Obviously when she bit, i did flinch but I did not shout or get angry at her but she was obviously surprised at me jumping ! Then at Friday bedtime she bit and bit me and refused to nurse. After numerous attempts, she ended up going to sleep with no feed and slept through the night no problem. I went into her room to try and dream feed her later, but again no luck. Tried to feed her on Saturday first thing -and went into her room to try and feed her while she was drowsy and again at naptime and bedtime and she just kept biting me hard would not take milk, same on Sunday all day, then same Mondzy before her lunchtime feed, bite, bite, bite, then amazingly, on Monday night, after multiple attempts, she took a full feed both sides. Then, didn't feed on Tuesday or today. She is going down for naps and at bedtime without even crying. She may ask for "na" ( her word for milk) but but it's only a vague request.
I am actually a La Leche leader - and have talked to co-leaders, who initially thought it was a strike. Admittedly, she does have a big lump on her gum where a molar is coming through. I am starting to think that she is self weaning, just because she just doesn't seem to be bothered about not having the milk.
Honestly, I'm devastated . Poppy is my last child and I honestly thought we'd be nursing for 2-3 years. I will never nurse another child again . I can't take the biting anymore, it's BAD and shes started to bite and then pull away which is agony. I am pumping twice per day to try and keep things going - I should do it more but with 2 other kids under 5 it's not that easy! We are going to Thailand in March and I was bankingon her nursing to get us through the 2 day travelling time!
Does anyone have any comments, past experience with biting and why whether it could still just be a nursing strike?
When your child is biting ver hard whenever you latch them on, it becomes a battle of common sense! Who wants to be bitten over and over again
If she has self weaned, then so be it - I guess I should count my blessings that it came to a natural end, rather than me forcing it upon her - which ultimately is what I want.
If you have any questions, happy to answer.