Re: Mom/baby separation after csection
Actually, I didn't get the impression that she was either resentful about having to have a c-section or upset about the separation. To me it seemed the only issue was that the baby not be given formula. We are assuming that the only way she wants to do that is by never leaving the baby's side. She was also looking for real life experience. And honestly, we can each talk about what our hospitals allowed or what we could get leniency on, but that doesn't directly relate to her hospital. Not everyone wants to fight for change or set and example. Some people are just fine with following rules, but they are looking for the best way to fit within those rules.
I don't find support in forcing my values on someone. She asked how to get the hospital to not give formula. I think based on answering that question exactly as it was asked, a doula/husband/or any advocate sounds like the most reasonable option. Women feel guilty about c-sections because of pressure from others. Because the "natural society" tells them they should with constant articles and studies about how unnatural a c-section birth is.
Susan, you have been quite lucky that none of your situations warranted a hospital birth. But not all of us were "born to birth babies" so we need a little medical assistance. Because of that, we need to do it completely different than you have. And we will never see eye to eye about it. Because for us, being alive and having our healthy baby is what it's about.
If you obey all the rules, you miss all the fun. - Katharine Hepburn