And all I was trying to say was that if we step back for a moment and look at policies - many times they aren't put in place JUST for convenience or because it makes someones life easier. Many times they are put in place because previous experiences has dictated a NEED for them. That is not always the case. I don't know her hospital and her staffing.
But there are ALWAYS 2 sides to every coin. A mom has the right to refuse that her baby not be taken away. And a nurse has the right to refuse to put her livelihood at risk by taking on such a patient. And just as that mama is doing what she has to do to achieve the best outcome for HER, that nurse is doing the same exact thing. And no one can fault her for that either. Because if anyone has known what it's like and how hard to is to earn that license and make it through the grueling demands of school...then they'd understand why a nurse is going to protect that and put that over a mom's feelings.
Having experienced BOTH sides of the coin...I get it. I get not wanting to be separated from your baby. It was AWFUL to not see Shiloh for almost 2 days after he was born. The pain of that separation was acute. But on the nursing side, so is walking in to a room and finding a mother that is still coming out of the anesthesia from the c-section having dropped her baby on the floor and having to stand before a board and being questioned on why your patient is now in ICU with a subdural hematoma and an intra-cranial hemorrhage. (that wasn't just made up either, it happened to a friend of mine that just graduated last May). Those policies are put in place to protect ALL parties involved.
All this to say - I'm giving birth at home because I do not want to be separated from my child AND because I'd like to work at that hospital some day and I WOULD be the patient to throw a fit and be "remembered" for all the wrong reasons