I got back from our 2 year checkup and my pediatrician seemed nonchalant about her weight remaining the same for the last six months (21.5 pounds) he said I could opt to see a nutritionist now or in three months. (Her height, head and other development milestones are fine.)I said the sooner the better and he said he'd arrange for a referral. So when I contacted his office this morning to get the info (instead of waiting for it in the mail) I found out that she had been diagnosed as "failure to thrive" and the referral was actually to a hospital instead of the outpatient nutritionist.
He has been pressuring me to wean since 18 months due to her low weight and that just seems counter intuitive. My constant argument has been that if she isn't getting enough nutrients then cutting off breastmilk to be replaced with cows milk is just plain stupid. Call me defensive but it just doesn't make sense that it is our nursing that is causing this issue.
I realize I am in the minority here with nursing a 2 year old 5-8 times a day. I do suggest other food that she eats 50 percent of the time but she just wants to nurse. I follow her cues. But now with the referral to the hospital nutritionist I'm concerned that nursing is going to be under attack again. We nurse in the afternoon before bed and a couple times during the night or morning.
For the record she is an incredibly verbal and responsive child. She climbs, runs and plays hard. She mainly eats cereal, whole milk yogurt, whole string cheese, tofu, mac and cheese, noodles and cheese, grean beans, toasted bread, broccoli, bananas, oatmeal with flax seed, raisins, pears, apples, oranges, broiled carrots ... just not a LOT. Actually the only thing she will eat a lot of are these no salt organic corn chips from trader joes. She'll eat those until the cows come home and within the last day or so I've been continuing to give them to her without any restriction. After reading the label they have iron, fat and fiber and no sodium so she can go to town on those if she wants.
So basically I'm wondering if any other ladies had pressure to wean in a toddler due to slow weight gain. My gut is saying to continue nursing as long as she asks for it (I'm fine with it, no problem on my end). I'm wondering if she's got an allergy, intolerance, or possibly celiac but her symptoms are so elusive and inconsistent. I'm sure there is a reason she is nursing so much and I'm relieved we will get help from a nutritionist ... but i need some support because I'm scared the nutritionist is also going to really force the weaning since our extended nursing is exceptional.
Any tips for dealing with the nutritionist? I WANT my daughter to gain weight to be more "normal" but i really don't want to further complicate the problem by eliminating nursing. And I also don't want them to flag my insistence on nursing as a behavioral issue that might be contributing to her lack of desire to eat food.
Your help is appreciated.