Re: SO ready to WEAN almost 3 year old!
You're right, your situation is different than mine. If it helps, while my husband was there to help, my son and I didn't separate when we weaned. He still slept with me and went to sleep with me. I thought he would automatically gravitate to his daddy but it turned out that he loves me just for being mommy, not just because I had boobs, lol! We offered a bribe as well, I think going out for ice cream or something. This only helped a little. Also, we weaned off of nap nursing a few months earlier when I returned to work and he decided to drop his nap at that point. I just explained it to him and also told him nursies were for nighttime. It was a while until the full weaning happened. When I said nursies were sleeping, that ticked him off too, so I didn't use that one. It did not work, ha! I just had to be ready myself to be done, and I was. I explained everything to him and told him no and offered a snuggle or a snack or a stuffie or something when he asked.
Best of luck. Once you begin, don't stop unless you really want to. If your daughter is like my son, giving in once would be an enormous setback. And I'm sure you know, but this can all be completed with plenty of compassion.
To free us from the expectations of others, to give us back to ourselves - there lies the great, singular power of self-respect. ~Joan Didion