Has anybody weaned a 3 year old?
I have no idea what to do. I've wanted to wean my son, who turned 3 in August, for quite some time. And it's actually bothered me to be nursing for several months. Now I'm getting resentful and angry about it. He nurses 4 times overnight. Going to sleep, twice overnight, and once in the early morning which often ends up being a huge production. It interferes with me getting up and getting ready for work/taking my son to school. If I don't get him back to sleep (which takes forever while he sleeps and nurses lightly, which means I can't fall back to sleep, which means I'm up for the day between 4-5 most days, which makes me want to scream), then we're all up. And if he isn't rested enough, he'll be pissed all morning. This morning, within minutes of me storming out of bed after an hour of light nursing (Grrrr) at 5:30 am, he just got up too and began throwing a tantrum for ice cream.
If he just fussed a little or got a little upset while I comforted him, I would just gently say no but he's got a really powerful personality and will scream at the top of his lungs. I cannot let him be so angry and upset, so I haven't been able to do any sort of night weaning yet.
I can't just let Daddy deal with it. We have a very small apartment that we rent that we share with 3 adults and 2 kids. His bed is in our room. If I'm just feet away...
I'm at a complete loss. We talk about it during the day, about not nursing anymore, and he goes along with it. But the second he's ready to sleep, if I try to say no (gently), he'll just go into monster mode. It's incessant. It doesn't stop. And I can't be comfortable with that in my house, it's really upsetting to me.
Please, does anybody have any peaceful suggestions on how to do this?
To free us from the expectations of others, to give us back to ourselves - there lies the great, singular power of self-respect. ~Joan Didion