Re: Laid back nursing and calming a newb
Everything you describe sounds totally normal to me. The flailing before eating is totally normal. Right now his only instinct is food so it's no wonder he goes into a panic. He might calm down and he might not. My son is 16 months old and he can still get a bit frantic when he wants to nurse and it takes me too long to get the boob out
What you are experiencing at night is probably more of a comfort suck than actually about food. A newborn baby has a great need for sucking and will continue to stay latched as long as you allow even when he is not eating. As for keeping him awake, does he need to be kept awake? Is his weight gain slow? It's hard work being a baby and sometimes they need to take little breaks. Sometimes just pulling your nipple out of his mouth will be enough to wake him and get him back to business. Some other things women do is to undress the baby, tickle the bottoms of the baby's feet or change positions.
You ask about latch. Are you basing this on looks or are your nipples sore? I say if he's gaining well, you aren't in any unusual pain (a little is totally normal) or you see nipple trauma then don't stress it.
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