I have nursed my DD, now 17 mths, to sleep every night since she was born. She has always needed a very quiet environment to nurse which worked out well since my DH and DS (DS is 4 and still in our bed) go to bed around 7:00 every night. My DD and I would stay in the livingroom and nurse and then I put her to bed (in her own crib) after she is asleep. Now she is very aware that DH and DS are upstairs in bed (usually with TV on) and wants to go upstairs with them. This keeps my DH and DS up because DD wants to play. She cries and throws tantrums when I tell her not to go upstairs and redirect her. I feel terrible about this...I don't want to yell at her as I believe in gentle discipline. I can't blame her for wanting to be with them but it is bed time and we all need to sleep. I have tried to have her sleep with me on a matress in our bedroom but she keeps me up and she doesn't sleep as well either. Does anyone have any suggestions on a bed time routine that works for all of us?