Re: Baby never happy/content after feedi
with the PPs, but especially with the following:
I have also heard moms say that formula "solved" their babies' fussiness issues, only to discover that the moms in question had comletely unrealistic expectations of how often their babies should be eating. One of my neighbors, for example, formula-fed her second child because he wanted to be held and to eat "all the time"- which turned out to be every 1-3 hours, a totally normal feeding frequency for a breastfed baby. What really solved the "problem" in my neighbor's case was that by using formula, she was able to stuff her kid so full by using a bottle that he would go 3-4 hours between feedings, and he was so full after eating that he would just pass out and not need to be held. Her life got a lot easier, but the cost was feeding her baby in a way that was completely inferior.
Whenever I hear "the baby was fussy/gassy/spitting up etc. and mom went to a 'formula' and that solved everything" I immediately suspect the mom had forceful letdown, and what 'solved' it was the baby being bottle fed,
If you don't want to use formula, don't use it. That's frequently the only thing that separates a woman who wanted to be successful at breastfeeding from the woman who IS successful at breastfeeding. With all due respect to your friend, when someone tells you how formula was "necessary" in their specific case, they may be subconsciously trying to offload some of the guilt they feel for not nursing their babies.
Does the fussiness strike at any particular time of day, mama? Maybe in the afternoon/evening?
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