Re: First time mom, with breastfeeding i
Welcome and congratulations on the new baby! It sounds like nursing is really going basically well, and that what you really need to do is to work on the fine points. That's awesome for just one month in!
There's no real answer to your question about how long you should let your baby nurse. Nursing speed is higly variable withyoung babies. Some babies get full meals in just 5-10 minutes at the breast, others require closer to an hour. You want to allow your baby to finish the first breast at his own pace, and then offer the second breast, without stressing if he doesn't take it.
It sounds like you have a bit of a fast letdown problem- that's what's making baby gulp and unlatch at the beginning of the feedings. Fast letdowns are often a byproduct of milk overproduction, but you can have fast letdowns without overproducing, and overproduction is not triggered by long or frequent feedings. It's a fairly normal part of having a new baby- the body errs on the side of caution and produces too much milk in the early days/weeks, to make sure that the baby (or babies) gets fed while he masters the art of breastfeeding. Eventually feeding on demand will cause your supply to adjust to baby's demand, at which piont problems with fast letdowns should cease. Util then, I suggest trying to adopt reclined nursing positions, since gravity can help slow milk flow, and keeping some washcloths handy. You can allow the milk to spray or drip into the washcloth when baby pulls off during letdowns.
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