Re: not satisfied
It sounds like one of the issues is that you and DH aren't on the same wavelength. I've had a few of these conflicts, esp since i do most of the research, but we both do childcare. If you guys are like us, you might find that insisting your husband research his feeding idea will help. I would also have a serious talk with the caregiver! perhaps it would also be helpful to have a general plan of no food introductions until everyone is in agreement (& it's after 6 months). Funny how couple communication has to reach a whole new level of efficency, post baby, no matter how in tune you were before. Hope you resolve it peacefully!
Oh, also, i found it really helpful to leave the Sears baby book in places like the bathroom, casually open to the relevant section, so that he could find it and get his own ideas. Sears is great bc he writes a lot about father parenting styles too, which I really think are as challenging if not more: parenting without nursing sounds way harder to me (pumping moms get credit for that, too).
Mother to a sweet boy, born at 34 weeks on 2/11/11.
Proud that I grew 26 lbs of baby before solids, and still counting...
We received banked milk in the NICU. Thank you, donors!!!