hi, mamas. this thread is for my little cousin, who is a first-time mom to a dd who is 6 days old exactly as i type this thread. and also for me, because i'm worried that i gave bad advice to her and her dh.
i've been having extensive text convos and phone calls w/ my cousin and her husband since their baby was born, re: mama's milk wasn't coming in as soon as they'd hoped. i told them it takes 3-4 days for lots of women, but that some women take a couple of days longer, and that it's normal. they were both concerned that she was crying from hunger because she wasn't getting enough.
i reassured them that her body would create all the baby needs, that baby doesn't need a lot during the first few days, only colostrum.. and to just keep putting her to the boob as often as possible, every 2 hrs, every time she cries or fusses, and that the milk would be in full force before they know it. so yesterday, day 5 pp for them, they sent me a pic of milk on her lips, and then a few hrs later, a pic of her first "dirty" diaper that didn't look like meconium, which showed faint spots of light orange-looking stuff on it. i thought, "milk is finally coming in on day 5, first milk doodie, yay!".. my own dd's first couple of diapers looked like the one in the pic (here is the pic, btw): http://i41.tinypic.com/w9im2e.jpg
well, this morning, 6 days pp, they go to the doc. their dd has lost 15% of her body weight, and the doctor said she is not getting enough milk, and that they needs to supplement w/ formula, starting now.
i don't understand, b/c this all kind of goes against everything i've learned here. shouldn't her body be making enough, and shouldn't her milk be here day 6 pp? she had a vaginal birth. is it a latch issue?
i've seen a video of her latch, and it looks good. suckling/mouth looked good. i'd link it here too, but heh.. it's my cousin's boob. and cousin is not having any pain/discomfort/weird nipple stuff happening, and baby is staying latched for 30-35 min at a time for an average feeding. THAT info also led me to believe that nursing was going along fine, and that her milk was just taking a bit longer to come in. but now i'm wondering, is there maybe a tongue/latch issue happening? what could be happening here?
i just feel really badly, b/c from my end, things seemed to be fine! i feel like i gave them horrible advice.. yet at the same time, i feel like *something* isn't right here from the info i'm getting.. and i don't believe that their doc is one who cares to explore what breastfeeding issues may be happening, as he just told them to get formula to supplement. also, they do not offer LC house calls, only a hotline number to call. and we all know it's HARD to see/know exactly what is happening without being there in person.
sigh. any advice, mamas? (btw, i know i haven't been here in forever, i love you all, goodnight!)