Re: I'm ready to wean, my toddler isn't.
First, congrats on making it to 21 months! That's terrific! Are your son's 2 year molars in yet? If he's still working on those, that could be part of the reason he's not eager to wean. Really, few babies are really ready to wean at under 2, so it's not like what you're experiencing is abnormal or something. Just frustrating!
Weaning a kid who's not on board with the idea is more difficult, and likely will involve some tantrums and screaming. Here's what I suggest doing:
- Start by dropping your LO's least favorite session first. Middle of the night feeds are often easiest to drop since baby is tired and sleepy and not really geared for a fight. The last sessions to go are usually the ones right before bedtime or nap.
- Offer lots of sippy cups and snacks. Toddlers often use the breast as a snack to tide them over between meals.
- Avoid your customary nursing locations. If you sit done in your favorite nursing chair, that's an invitation to your toddler to jump into your lap.
- Enlist help. Toddlers don't ask to nurse when their caretaker is daddy, grandma, or a babysitter.
- Use distraction. Most kids forget to nurse when out and about in highly stimulating surroundings.
- Be consistent. Tantrums and screaming suck, but they also eventually stop if you are gentle and firm and teach your toddler that tantrums don't work.
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