Re: New mom in need of help
I'm so sorry that you are off to a rough start!
What is the cause of the nipple pain (thrush, bad latch, etc)? I think that makes a difference with the time that it will take to heal. If it is from a bad latch, and the latch is now correct, I wouldn't expect it to take too long to heal. You have to make sure the latch is good every time though.
It DEFINITELY does get better! For me, I was exclusively pumping for two months because DS wasn't getting enough milk at the breast. It was awful. It took until he was about 4 months old before things started to be easier. But, I think it took so long because we had a late start at the breast. Now, he's 10 months old and it's WONDERFUL. It is soooo much easier than formula and I am so thankful that I stuck with it.
In terms of the lengths between feedings, that really depends on the baby. DS used to be every 2 hours in the daytime, and now he's every 3. At night, he wakes me up anywhere from every hour to every 6 hours. It just depends. Are you waking your DD up at night? Unless she is having weight gain issues, I don't think you need to do that. You should wait for her to wake *you* up (or for your boobs to need her to eat, heh).
I would not recommend pumping and bottle feeding. It's a pain in the butt and you could end up with an oversupply and nipple confusion.
You should be able to find a local LL group here: http://www.llli.org/ and select the country, etc towards the top.
Hang in there! It will be worth it!
Mommy to Alex, born 2/27/11