Re: How to cope with judgement?
How old is your DD1? If you're wanting her to have the benefits of your milk now, you could always still pump and give it to her cold, in a cup. Although depending on her age, she might not take it. I did that for my nearly 2yo, after DS2 was born for almost a year.
I agree with taking things one day at a time. And if you don't want to deal with ignorant comments or explaining things over and over, you don't have to let people know that you're still nursing. I'm still nursing my DS2, who's nearly 3 and I think a lot of people assumed that I've weaned him, because he only nurses once a day (never in public). My better friends know that he's still nursing and are totally supportive. But if my stepdad for example, knew that B was still nursing, I'm sure he'd be judgemental about it.
It's your business. People don't have to like how you parent your children. You're doing what you think is best, and that's all that matters.
Mommy to L - May 7, 07' , B - February 7, 09' , and R - August 18, 12'