with christine. if it were me and i could afford it, i would look for a different dcp. there is nothing more important than raising your baby in the best way possible. these first months and years are crucial and we don't get a do-over. plus you are going through a lot of effort to pump, it seems a bit inconsiderate to disregard your effort and time pumping. perhaps a different dcp might also be good for your relationship with your mom, in addition to giving you peace of mind.