I am currently trying to wean my 14 month old son. I have a medical condition that I have been postponing treatment for for several months because the treatment is not compatible with breastfeeding. It is slowly getting worse and I feel like I need to go ahead and wean my son so I can treat my condition, even though I don't feel like either one of us is completely ready.
For the last month, we have been down to only two nursing sessions, before his nap and at bedtime. For the last week and a half, my husband has been home and has been putting him down for naps, so we have only been nursing before bed. My son has done great with this, and has not had a hard time going down for a nap without me there. Their usual routine is to sit in the rocker in the nursery, and my husband reads to him until he falls asleep, then puts him in his crib. My husband left today for a business trip, and when I tried to put him down (following the same routine), he would not settle down until I nursed him (I know this was probably not the best idea), but I just felt horribly guilty for him being so upset.
I guess I am not sure how to proceed at this point. My husband travels a lot for his work, and I had hoped that this time he had off to help would help with the weaning process, but it doesn't look like that is going to be the case, and that this is something my son and I will have to work through. My big question right now is, if I just refuse to nurse my son for nap time, am I sending him mixed signals by letting him nurse to sleep for bed but not for naps? I am so afraid that I am just confusing him by having two different routines for going to sleep. Is it better to just stop nursing completely at this point in order to develop a consistent routine?
I want to make this transition as easy as possible on my son, and would greatly appreciate any insight or advice. Thank you so much!