Re: 5 days in and feeling stressed
You said people do this all the time, right? Yes. Women do it every day. Have babies. Have second or third or more children. And we all feel the same way you do. There is nothing harder than being a mother. Each child you add, the more of "you" that you lose. So many people needing you. Who can't survive without you. It's so overwhelming. You have your own needs though. Many of which must be met or you can't do your job as mother. In ancient times we relied on our family and other women in the village. Modern days we rely on things like swings and pacifiers. TV and playmates for the older ones. It becomes about survival. If you know a mom that makes it look easy and doesn't need any of those things, they are either lying or getting far more help than even they realize.
I found it helpful to put things into a priority list so I didn't get overwhelmed. Laundry can wait. Borrow or buy new clothes if trying to wash baby clothes every 3 days is too stressful. Make double portions of food so it lasts that much longer and you don't need to cook. In the very early days I would put a movie on for my daughter, put my son on my chest and the 3 of us would cuddle on the couch. I would close my eyes and get a mini nap. I co-sleep out of desperation. It's about survival. Not perfection. Don't beat yourself up if things don't seem perfect. And if you really feel yourself sinking do not be afraid to ask for help. I have been known to look my husband square in the eyes and tell him that I am crying for help. Let's not wait for me to run from the house in my underwear screaming.
If you obey all the rules, you miss all the fun. - Katharine Hepburn