Ok So I am so angry and need to vent. My husbands best friend and his wife just had a baby 2 weeks ago. She wanted to try and breastfeed but when I talked to her before baby she was leaning towards only pumping because she didn't want baby to be "dependent" on her. I tried to push it aside thinking she would change when baby came. She tried to latch him at birth but since neither knew what they were doing she quickly gave up. She didn't even have a motivation to attempt to nurse her baby that first 24 hours. She actually seemed happy because now she could go with her original plan and make sure DH would get lack of sleep to feed baby. I felt so sad for the baby and offered my help. I breastfed my daughter for well over a year and my son is 14 months and we are still breastfeeding and bed sharing. Heck I even baby wear him still!
Ok, anyway....so baby ofcourse dropped weight, turned jaundice and spiked a fever before 48 hours old! Oh did I mention they also cicumcised him before 24 hours old! I won't even get into that because I don't believe it should be done anyway. So at home she pumps every 3 hours and after he was 6 days old asked me if she could stretch that. I said..."What he's on a schedule! Feed him on demand." I also suggested that she could still get him reassociated with the breast. She wasn't interested. He gets formula and breastmilk bottles (so sad). Now he's 2 weeks old and since he started cluster feeds they have now moved to having him CIO! Stating that he can't possibly be hungry cause he was just fed and hour or 2 ago and we just held him for a little bit.
I fear for this poor baby. So sorry he was delt such selfish parents to think he is manipulating them at 2 weeks old! What is wrong with people. I tried to be her friend for the last few years but now I am definately not trying. Her and her husband have parenting styles that anger me. I don't even want to know what is happening because I'll just be angry all the time.