Re: It's just driving me mad :'(
Welcome and congratulations on the new baby. I am sorry you're having problems nursing him. This link covers getting a baby back to the breast: http://www.kellymom.com/bf/concerns/...to-breast.html. In addition to the tips in the link, I would do the following:
- Pump frequently using a high quality pump. If you must use a bottle, being able to fill it with milk means your supply will stay equal to your baby's needs. I agree with your midwife that just pumping can lead to reduced supply, but it's not something that will happen, just something that can happen if you don't do the hard work with the pump.
-Make bottle-feeding as much like breastfeeding as possible. If you must give a bottle, do it in the following way: use a slow-flow nipple, and consider using a bottle nipple that is designed for breastfed babies (Breastflow and Adiri make nipples like these). Open your shirt, bring baby to the bare breast, and then tickle his lips with the bottle nipple until he opens wide. When his mouth is wide-open, let him have the bottle. Pause the feeding after every oz of milk, and keep the amount in the bottle to 2 oz or less. Big bottles can mean fewer nursing attempts.
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