Re: DD not able to nurse anymore.
Mama, you have been having such a rough time. I am sure the abrupt weaning is just making things harder on you. Obviously you are pressed for time, so it may be very difficult for you to do a lot of pumping. However, I don't know that there's a way to get a lot of milk without investing significant time at the pump. Fenugreek may help, but it's not a substitute for frequent and thorough milk removal via pump or via nursing baby. I think that, in your shoes, I would just slip in pumping sessions whenever possible, without much regard for trying to maintain a schedule. Because it sounds like your workload is not going to be compatible with keeping a tight schedule!
Is there any way you can involve your older kids in the pumping process? Have the 5 year-old plug the pump in. Have the little ones bring you the pump parts and bottles. And then maybe have everyone sit down and listen to a story while you pump. Maybe that would buy you the time you need?
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