I'm another mother coming here from a disappointing well-baby check. My son had his 6 month check yesterday. There were several reasons I left the appointment sad, but one is that my son is still not gaining much. He was born in the 5th percentile, and at 6 months, he's barely hanging on to the 1st. (Born at 6 lbs 4 oz and now is 12 lbs 15.8 oz.) He's also gone from the 25th to the 10-15th for length. The pediatrician was surprised that we didn't start cereal at 4 months and now wants me to delay vegetables until 8 or 9 months since we "are behind on solids" at this point. I thought 6 months was a perfectly acceptable age to start solids, but I know there are different schools of thought on that. (I've looked into BLS, and I'm not really interested, by the way. I was just going to start with vegetables at 6 months.) Since he was a few weeks early, I agree with her that he might need the extra iron in the cereal, but she wants me to give him 3 bowls of cereal per day. That seems like a lot of cereal to me. We already have what I think is a delicate nursing relationship. He just doesn't like to eat all that much, and I'm worried that so much cereal is going to damage how much he nurses. So, does anyone have suggestions on how else to get him extra iron? Maybe I'm wrong about the amount of cereal, and 3 bowls per day is perfectly fine? I have decided we will probably start with oatmeal and then move to vegetables in a while, but I'd also like suggestions on maybe high-iron vegetables or other ways to get him extra iron (since she thinks that will likely help him grow faster). Any thoughts on getting him to gain weight? Just nursing more often isn't doing it, obviously.
I'm pretty sure we need a new pediatrician. We've only seen this one twice, and I leave the appointments pretty unhappy. We were so fortunate to find a pediatrician we loved when my son was born, but she moved and referred us to the current one, and I don't think this one is cutting it for us. I went to this appointment feeling like my son is small but doing great - rolling over, saying "da da da da," and just generally happy and active - and I left the appointment feeling inadequate as a mother. (Truthfully, my self-confidence has never been great, so it's not really saying much that I leave feeling inadequate!)
Sorry this is so long. I could write so much more, but I'll leave it at this for now. Thanks for any help (or just sympathy!) anyone can provide.
Another question I thought of after typing this: She said that the cereal might constipate him and that I should offer water to compensate. How much water should a 6 month old who isn't gaining much weight be given? Would breastmilk help instead of water, because it seems to me that a baby not gaining weight shouldn't consume too much of something that is calorie-free. Thanks, again!