Re: OHHH The PAIN!!
mama, check out this link on vasospasm: http://kellymom.com/bf/concerns/mom/...blanching.html. The blue and white color changes you are seeing are kind of textbook. Vasospasm can be caused by compression due to a poor latch. And if this is vasospasm- and I would bet money that it is- it doesn't rule out other issues like tongue tie and thrush. So please do see the ENT, and see a second LC, preferably an IBCLC, for some more hands-on help.
You CAN do this, mama! Your baby is so tiny right now. Even when his latch is at its best it's going to be relatively shallow. But he is going to grow and his mouth will grow- a lot of times the key to resolving a latch issue is to wait for the baby to get bigger. If you made it 3-6 months with your other LOs you can make it that long again. We'll help you as much as we can, even if all we can do is to provide a shoulder to cry on.
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