Where to even begin... my 10 month old son (ds#2) is highly allergic to many foods, restricting my diet tremendously. I too have many food allergies which further limits what i can eat. as a result, i made the decision that i would stick it out with nursing until he's a yr, eventhough i nursed my ds#1 til 19 mo. it has been an extremely frustrating and difficult road and eventhough i know it would be better if i could continue nursing for longer, it's just too much already. im not getting into all the allergies now bc thats not my main concern, but feel free to ask.
my son has been eating pureed foods, fruits and veggies, and has been really getting into table food lately, inlcluding chicken, i havent tried beef yet. i really want to wean him by a yr bc im getting frustrated often, am only enjoying it some of the time, and am unhappy a lot of the time. i also miss having a variety of food to eat!
ds used to be a decent sleeper but started waking frequently at abt 7 mo, beginning to teeth no doubt. he has become a frequent night nurser which only adds to the equation. he hardly lets my husband comfort him in middle of the night, meaning i have to nurse him back to sleep almost every time he wakes up, which can happen as often as 30 min to an hour. he does sleep in his own room, but by 11-12pm/am i usually take him into bed with us because im too tired to sit in the rocking chair with him until he falls asleep, and stays asleep! the problem is, when he is in my bed, pretty much nursing allllllllllllllll night, i dont sleep.
my solution was that since i wanna work on weaning, lets start with night time since its the hardest and takes the longest. so i thought id choose a block of time, between 11pm and 4-5 am where i would not nurse him. he could nurse as much as he wanted til 11, and then not until 5-6 hours later, he nurses a lot during the day and eats, so i figured he wouldnt be hungry. the first 2 nights were terrible, but my dh and i were up with him, hugging, cuddling, kissing, and giving him all the love we could. the third night he slept in my bed for that whole chunk of time, but then after that it was hit or miss. after two weeks of this experiment, i gave up because he was not getting used to it and my hubby and i were getting sooooo tired from being up for hours with him crying. now that ive gone back to nursing whenever, i still dont sleep because when he nurses all night im constantly aware that he's there and never enter deep stage sleep.
my questions are:
1. was that just a terrible idea to start working on night weaning? i so badly want to be done by a year that i feel pressure from myself to really get the ball going. if it were up to him he wouldnt stop any time soon, but im falling apart without sleep and ill need to do it eventually, so why not now?
2. ive read and used elizabeth pantly's ncss techniques, but at this point im just too tired to implement strategies. how can i keep my ds from waking every hour every night, and replace his need to nurse to sleep with something else?
3. how should i approach daytime nursing sessions,which are basically every 3 hours.
4. how do other entirely exhausted moms feel abt night nursing and weaning? am i the only one who doesnt feel some amt of sleep is being achieved by nursing in bed?
aside from being tired and frustrated, my ds is also bruising my nips a lot due to teething and that only makes me more resentful and only makes me want to wean soon more than ever! im commited to a yr, but really a yr, i dont want him to be 15-16 mo old and im still nursing. he is so allergic than any slight trace of allergens in my milk makes him sooooooooooooooooooooo refluxy and vomity, as well as causes his skin to be covered in eczema. so there's no cheating possible.
supermom2008, mom to 2 beautiful boys, my oldest just turned 3 yesterday (10/15/08) and my baby, bore 12/15/10.
currently off dairy, eggs, wheat, soy, corn, chickpeas, sesame, avocado, potato, oats, barley (really all gluten), buckwheat, brown rice, broccoli, sunflower seeds (ie sunbutter), and many of the gluten free flours including potato starch, tapioca starch, corn starch, sorghum flour, arrow root (only can have very small quantities)