Re: 5 days in and feeling stressed
Yay mama! Way to go!
with PPs. Reading your post was like reliving the first weeks after my DS was born. He was attached all day and I felt like my poor DD was getting the short end of the stick. It was a rough adjustment. We did puzzles, read books, and did anything else I could think of that would work with me stuck on the couch those first weeks. I even caved in and broke my 30 mins of TV rule and we watched movies together. Eventually, we both got bored and I tried a sling. I think DS was about 5 weeks. He still won't let me nurse in it "hands free," but it'll support his little bum while I cradle him with one arm.
The endless attachment is pretty well done, now. DS is 10 weeks. DD is none the worse for wear, and it's made the "just us" time we can spend together even more special.
Relax and try to enjoy it. I wish I'd let myself relax about things more those first few weeks. I was trying to clean the house the day we got home from the hospital, so it wouldn't be dirty when my MIL came over to watch DD. When DH got home from work, he put me to bed Let's just say it took me a while to let my usual house standards slide a bit.
Oh, and we started cosleeping, too. A matter of survival. I still get nervous about it; but if I was trying to get up and nurse DS every 3 hours at night, I wouldn't have the energy to keep up with both my kids during the day.
Just go at your own pace and try not to overdo it. You'll find your groove. You might even look back on it all and laugh, or at least shake your head and think "silly me." I'm starting to do just that.
Mamma to: DD (02.2010) and DS (08.2011)
We cloth diaper and are new to baby-wearing.
Learning to trust my instincts and turn off my scientifically-trained brain!