Re: lazy latcch?
Hey, I think everyone gets a bit burnt out at 2 months, even when everything is going perfectly and the was no stressful NICU stay or c-section (i presume) in the mix.
If your LO had been able to stay in until term, she'd be a newborn right now. And newborns tend to have tiny mouths, which even at their widest do not open very wide and even at their best do not latch on very deep. Newborns also have trouble controlling milk flow, which can lead to clicking, milk spillage, and nipple compression (since compressing the nipple helps control the flow). The "slight lipstick" look your nipple has post-feeding is probably a result of this combination of factors- a tiny mouth, a slightly shallow latch, and compression.
So, what do you do about it? Here's what I suggest:
1. Patience. I know you've been at this for 2 months, but if nature had her way your baby would be a brand-new newborn right now, still learning to nurse.
2. Try to put her to the breast before she is really hungry. She may latch on better when she's not freaking out from hunger.
3. Show her what you want her to do. When you latch her on, open your mouth very wide. She may mimic you!
4. Google the "nipple sandwich" technique- that can help you achieve a deeper latch.
5. See a lactation consultant, preferably an IBCLC, for hands-on help. When you're having trouble with a newborn, nothing beat this approach!
6. Pat yourself on the back! You've made it 2 months with a preemie and no formula, and have managed to transition off of using a shield. Those are enormous achievements!
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