Re: Wake to feed? Oversupply too?
Welcome and congratulations on the new baby! I hope you're healing okay from the c-section?
At just 9 days old, you should continue to wake the baby every 2-3 hours during the day and every 3 at night, particularly because your baby was a tand early and that tends to cause babies to be a little bit sleepier than average, and sleepy babies are at risk for not taking in enough milk to grow and thrive. I would continue to wake him for at least another couple of weeks, despite the good diaper output you're getting. And you are absolutely correct that good diaper output is what you want to be seeing right now!
The stressful feedings you describe sound like a combination of 2 different issues. First of all, I think your baby is still learning the ropes when it comes to breastfeeding, and that means that sometimes he will not quite know what to do when he gets to the breast. Think about it this way: up until 9 days ago your baby go all his nutrition through his umbilical cord, without having to work for it. Now he has to master latching on, sucking, swallowing, breathing, digesting- it's a lot for him to deal with!
Second, what you desrcibe does sound like you are dealing with some oversupply issues. Frequent engorgement means some degree of oversupply, but this is quite normal when you have a 9 day old baby! The best thing you can do right now is probably nothing. Just be patient and give your supply some time to adjust. Reclined nursing positions may help, since gravity can slow the milk flow. If you go more than, say, another week or so without feeling some improvement in your supply situation, then you might want to consider doing some single-sided feeding in order to decrease supply a bit more rapidly. But you're really early in your breastfeeding journey, so I don't think I'd go there quite yet!
I know what you are dealing with is very, very frustrating, but if you are patient and persistent it will improve, I promise!
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