First time poster – these forums have been a wonderful resource for me as I navigate the world of BFing. Thank you.
My son is 3 months old and has been exclusively BF since birth. He is at 7 feeds a day (more if he wants) - I always feed on demand per his cues (generally, 3AM, 7AM, 10AM, 1PM, 4PM, 7PM, 10PM). His weight gain is appropriate; he is napping really well and is peeing/pooping normally. I drink a ton of water and Mother's Milk tea.
In the past 2 weeks, he will go from his ~7AM feed to his ~4PM feed with two 15-minute feeds between. During those feeds, he grunts, moans, and un-latches. When I re-latch him, he is so anxious that he jumps on. But within a minute, he screeches and pulls off. Eventually, he refuses to latch and we stop. Even if I wait another 20 minutes and try again, he lasts for a few minutes and starts the same antics again.
I don’t believe that I have OALD. I do believe that he has been spoiled by the occasional bottle of pumped BM (given during recent family gatherings and weddings). I read on KellyMom that it could be a sign of frustration with slow flow (my milk production is fine).
I am super concerned at his food intake. It bothers me that he eats SO little between his 7AM and 4PM feeds. His day time feeds are never "happy". We are both miserable. He is NOT a comfort nurser; otherwise, I would keep him attached to me all day. Unless eating, he is not a fan of being on the boob.
An interesting note, when we took him out of town last week, he nursed beautifully. However, he received 1-2 bottles of pumped milk a day so that I could spend time with the family we were visiting. He was content and happy the whole time and slept/napped well. When I nursed him, he nursed happily for 20-30 minutes. It's as if those 1-2 bottles made all the difference. It's as if he wasn't ravenous and was content to nurse.
I hate that he eats only 30-40 minutes between his 7AM to 4PM feeds (even though the other feeds are strong). He is clearly hungry during the day, but refuses to stay latched to eat. I am at a loss and hate to see him so hungry in the evening/night. I am a SAHM and have all the time to work on this. Any advice would be appreciated.