Okay, so several months ago, we sold our house and moved in with MIL while we looking for a different one to buy. We actually close on our new house today, so we will be moving over the next few weeks. My MIL watches Ben while I am at work.
She formula fed/CIO her kids, and thats what every person in their family has done as well. She has been great with me breastfeeding Ben, always had my back, and was very supportive. Until several months ago.. when she felt Ben was too old to nurse. Now he is 2.
She has made several comments:
"Oh Kristin, He's too big for that."
"He's soo immature and doesn't mind. If he slept in his own bed he would be more mature."
"He's just using you for a pacifier"
"All of those one year olds at the birthday party are more mature than Ben"
"If he didn't have a boob in his mouth he would be talking more"
Keep in mind, there are also times where she will say he just needs to nurse, like if he is cranky. And I have very politely told her I find these things insulting, and that boys don't tend to talk as early as girls, and that he is 2 OF COURSE he is immature, and that he is actually ATTACHED to me, and that the other kids are in day care their parents go out all the time and leave them with sitters and bottle feed and CIO and blah blah blah. She listens, but its clear that she holds her own opinion.
I think it will be better when we move out and into our own house. And I love her, I do, she is an amazing MIL and we get along very well usually. We are close.
The kicker though, is that she is buying the empty lot next to our brand new house, and will begin building a house of her own RIGHT NEXT DOOR. Sigh. Maybe Ben will be weaned by then (it may be a year before that house is built) and I won't have to deal with this.
Normally she is very educatable on breastfeeding but this toddler nursing business blows her mind I guess.
I have called and made an appointment with a speech therapist to see if he is indeed behind on speech, he is very intelligent, just doesn't care to speak a lot. What he DOES say is clear and his hearing is fine, and his fine motor skills are fantastic.