Re: Toddler weaned herself, I'm in pain
Ouch! That must be super uncomfortable. If my sixteen month old stopped nursing, I'd probably explode. I think you are on the right track by hand expressing when necessary to restore comfort. As long as you keep the milk removal on the minimal side, your body will eventually get the message and stop producing. In other words, you don't want to express to the point where you feel like you've emptied the breast, just to the point where you're comfortable. A cup of peppermint or sage tea also might help- those herbs are supposed to be useful for diminishing supply. Don't worry too much about plugged ducts or mastitis- unless you are very prone to either one engorgement alone should not necessarily lead to either one. But if it does, then you can revisit the issue and pump and express more milk until you've dealt with the problem, after which you can go back to trying to decrease supply.
That being said, would you be open to nursing again? Just because your baby is in a "no thanks" frame of mind doesn't mean you are bound to accept that, or that she has made a permanent decision. Kids are so whimsical and changeable at that age! If you offer the breast, she might change her mind and unwean. To me, that would be a plus- there are a lot of good reasons to nurse a toddler. No pressure, of course!
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