Tongue Tie/Lazy Nurser?
I need help for a friend you guys. My best friend from HS just had her second baby. She nursed her first most of the way through the pregnancy and has an abundant supply- had oversupply most of the time she was nursing him. Her daughter is a little over a month old now, had a frenectomy on Aug 29 and still is having a hard time nursing. Baby was not gaining before the frenectomy, she is gaining now, but mainly because at this point she's mostly pumping/bottle feeding. They're already seeing an LC, but running out of ideas and getting desperate to get baby back to the breast. Here's the latest email she sent me.
Blech. She's gaining weight at least--12 oz in a week. Mostly by bottle. Maybe she gets 2-4 oz off me a day--though I try nursing her every feeding. I thought they were getting better--she had a couple of feedings where she didn't take a bottle or took less than 3 oz. and then she went back to doing what she had been doing a week ago--right when we were about to try to have her start nursing in both sides. So now she latches on and sucks three times and falls asleep. Sometimes i can get her to swallow if i do lots of compressions and try to wake her up the whole time. But that only lasts for about 3 minutes. Then we give her a bottle and she is wide awake. I'm so totally freaked out by this.
I don't get how she can latch and mostly nurse sometimes (even if slowly and only for a short while) and other times she just latches and falls asleep. I think she's started associating the boob with sleeping--the only time she roots now is when she wants to sleep. She also has to be wide awake and I have to have not pumped in a while for her to actually get anything. Except she is so damn sleepy sometimes. She needs the milk to be readily accessible. Even pumping to get a let down or using the Sns doesn't help then--she still just conks out. And it's not my supply cause I'm pumping 25 oz a day and even after she conks out I can go pump 3 oz.
It's driving me nuts because it's nothing obvious and every single thing that should make it easy for her to breastfeed she has going for her. She even latches well. I have plenty of milk.
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