I was invited to attend a friend's wedding in June when my daughter, Nora, was
three months old. I RSVPed "yes" for myself and my husband, planning to bring
my daughter, of course. Weeks before the wedding I realized it said, "adult
only reception" on the invite. I got in touch with the bride and explained how
my daughter is breastfeeding and cannot be away from me for more than a little
while. The bride told me that unfortunately she had to stick to her decision to
not have children at the reception, so therefore, no, my daughter could not
attend. ...even though she was a three month old nursing baby.... I *knew* Nora
would not be happy without nursing for so many hours, so we did not attend the
Now I have another friend's wedding at the end of October that I plan to go to.
Now that my daughter is a little older, she would be probably okay if I left her
with my mom. And the logistics of location work out so that I could go home and
nurse Nora b/w the ceremony and reception. However, I'd rather take her with
me. That way I wouldn't have to pump, leave bottles, and wonder if she's okay.
Can you help me with these questions:
1) What does etiquette say? If you and your husband's names are on the
invitation but not your baby/child's names, does that mean they do not want your
child to attend the wedding?
2) What's your advice for me for this upcoming wedding? Do I again, contact the
bride and ask if she minds me bringing my baby? I'm afraid if I do ask her,
I'll get the same answer as last time. Or do I just bring Nora with me and not
worry about it?
Since I'm a first-time mom, I'm really struggling with this concept. I want to
take my daughter with me everywhere. I'm quite proud of the fact that I've
gotten good at and comfortable nursing her wherever we are. And she's most
happy, of course, when she's with me. Since I'm not working now (and even
though she's six months old) the longest I've left her is three hours max.
Thanks for your thoughts!