Re: Question about breast softness
Some moms can feel a distinct difference in the breast after the baby nurses, but not all. It is particularly difficult to feel a difference if you have breasts that are on the larger size. Your baby may be eating only 2-3 oz at a time- that would be typical for a breastfed baby though some eat more and some less- and it's pretty easy to hide that small volume of milk in a larger breast.
Hand-sucking is a fairly reliable hunger cue in the very beginning, but as a baby gets older and discovers that she can maneuver her hands into her mouth, hand-sucking becomes more recreational and less connected to hunger. If you're ever in doubt, just offer the breast again. Worst thing that happens: you unhooked your bra for no reason.
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